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ROMANCE NEEDS GRACE PERIOD
Aug 15, 2008 | 12:09 PM
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A friend and colleague of mine recently got divorced. I'd say about seven months ago.

Before the ink was barely dried on his divorce decree, like a month or so, he got hot and heavy with the first woman he met.

It's not my place to blog about the status of this relationship. So I'm not going to.

But I need to ask.  Should there be some sort of grace period between old and new romance?

Personally? I say you shouldn't get into any serious relationship for at least a year following a divorce. And who would want to!

What say you?

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toddt read my blog
Aug 15, 2008 | 3:24 PM

All depends. Sounds like your pals marriage was in the crapper for some time. Just took some time for him and/or his wife to realize it and move forward with the divorce. What I find pathetic is when a guy or a gal starts to date before the divorce is final. I have a buddy right now that is going thru the divorce process and his wife slept around 17 times on him........that he knows about!
Tom_Sussi read my blog view my photos
Aug 15, 2008 | 3:28 PM

Well, you know what they say, Toddt? Variety is the spice of life!
Truthguys read my blog view my photos
Aug 15, 2008 | 4:07 PM

I am amazed at how some people just have to have someone that they move so fast. I knew a girl who went through guys so fast that I had to tell her to put me on the waiting list.
80sMetalHead read my blog view my photos
Aug 15, 2008 | 6:08 PM

If someone is getting divorced, why on Earth would they be looking to jump into a new relationship so soon?
Abunai read my blog view my photos
Aug 15, 2008 | 6:25 PM

I've done BOTH! (OK.. some people collect stamps or coins... I collect ex-wives! and it can be just as expensive!)

I rebounded after the first wife decided the hills of Arkansas were calling her back and things like telephones, color TV and indoor plumbing were just too overwelming for her. I was on my first deployment with special forces when she left. A year later after my 3rd tour to the Gulf (Sheild/Storm) I actually picked up anohter wife out of the scratch and dent pile figuring I could fix it, but after spending 10Grand on getting her teeth, she decided she was ready to be 17 again (from 30) and packed up and left while I was again serving. So I gave up on women folk and buried myself in martial arts. Long story short, I ended up with my 3rd wife, who was my martial arts instructor! A cute little lighting fast blonde version of Steven Segal! We have 2 great kids, and a great life!

My advice... marry a woman that can kick your A$$!!! (or at least put up a good fight!)
thewizard read my blog view my photos
Aug 15, 2008 | 7:05 PM

After you're divorced, a man is biologically required to have a relationship so bad, that it makes it marriage look great. Don't ask me why - it just works out that way.

And this prepares him for the rebid workaholic that he'll then be for the next six months to a year.
Tom_Sussi read my blog view my photos
Aug 15, 2008 | 7:05 PM

Third time was the charm for my man, Abunai. Good for you. You didn't sour on finding true love.
pimplebutt read my blog
Aug 15, 2008 | 7:46 PM

Two types of people get divorced. People who refuse to work on their marriage, and people who either give or receive abuse. The latter is probably justifiable, the first is not.
Which category did your "friend" fall into? Was your friend just lazy? Or did your friend fool around? Or did the spouse fool around? Either way, they say that divorce is a fate worse than death many times, so it stands to reason that hooking up with the first bag that comes along might not be prudent.
oldvamp read my blog view my photos
Aug 15, 2008 | 8:14 PM

My first wife was unfaithful to me and asked her to leave. We split and went our seperated ways. She took our two kids with her. I was playing the field and favoring this one gal in particular when six months later, I had the chance to take our kids away from her. I asked that gal to move in with me even if just platonic so that I could assure getting the kids. She agreed and five years later, we got married. That was 34 years ago and we're still going great.
YBSRobin read my blog
Aug 15, 2008 | 8:43 PM

It's possible he already knew the woman before he got divorced. Only he knows for sure. But if he's happy, that's all that matters. Why wait? One never knows if they will even have a year left or not. Live life now, if it's not right, then keep trying until it is or until you're broke. Which ever comes first!
Truthguys read my blog view my photos
Aug 15, 2008 | 8:59 PM

I have never been married..... I trade in when the girls gets 27. LOL
tfromtx read my blog view my photos
Aug 15, 2008 | 10:14 PM

Some people can't stand being alone. I say do what makes you happy, just don't jump back into marriage. After being miserable, someone new is fun and puts romance and excitement back into your life. I would tell him to enjoy that and not jump back into a marriage by comparing the two. I'm sure he had the same feelings with the x when their relationship was new.
Tom_Sussi read my blog view my photos
Aug 16, 2008 | 7:14 AM

No. He did not know this woman prior to his wife. He met her at a party through a friend.
Truth - you're a rock star!
FlaNative read my blog view my photos
Aug 16, 2008 | 11:03 AM

Guess you can find love anytime, anywhere. If that's what happened, more power to them both!!

Tom, my question is why do people attend a wedding? Because they support the union, like the people or to show support for a friend and want to support his time of happiness?????

Even if I thought my friend was making a mistake and although I may tell him in private, I wouldn't "boycott" the wedding.. I'd be there to show support.

Friends, especailly good ones, are hard to find. They make mistakes, do stupid things and make us mad sometimes, but that's part of friendship.

Hope you reconsider and go.
Tom_Sussi read my blog view my photos
Aug 16, 2008 | 6:10 PM

I hate weddings. Never attend. Hell, more than half of them wind up divorced. Not my thing.
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Tom grew up in Flint, Michigan and has worked in radio, newspaper and television. A graduate of Michigan State University; Tom has worked in Lansing, Flint, Detroit, Pittsburgh and Cincinnati. In his television career, he’s won numerous awards including an Emmy and Reporter of the Year honors. At WOFL, Tom is the Consumer Investigator. Simply put, Tom has headed south to do what he does best and what he loves most. He’s here to stick up for the little guy. Expect to see Tom hold rip-off artists accountable; help solve your consumer problems; and investigate government spending. So, do you need help? Send Tom an email if you have a question or a problem! His address is askfox@foxwofl.com.

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